Friday, October 07, 2005

The Dangers of Gossip

Whether it is good or bad, gossip is something my wife and I try to stay away from. We have been hurt by hearsay in the past and feel that partaking in the popular activity serves no rewarding purpose.

Allow me to share an analogy with all of you relating to gossip.

Gossip is like hammering a nail into a piece of wood. The wood represents the victim of the gossip, the nail is the actual hearsay and the hammer represents the gossiper. When someone hammers a nail into a piece of wood it creates a hole and may even split the wood slightly. True, you can remove the nail but the mark will still be there. Over time the hole will start to fade, it may even smooth over a bit, but the mark will always remain.

A person may take part in gossip and realize all to late that their words hurt another individual. That person can apologize for what they had said and that apology can certainly be accepted, however, like that piece of wood, the mark will always be there. Over time these two people can become the best of friends, but that mark, that stupid mark.

Guard your tongue.

7 comments:

Kim Ayres said...

Clearly someone has said something that has upset the barrel.

Was it that Mrs Jones from number 43? You'll never guess what I heard about her daughter...

BStrong said...

Kim,
There was no particular incident that prompted me to write today’s post. Gossip is just something that generally bothers me. Believe me, it’s very difficult to refrain from gossip because it’s all around us. Fortunately our friends understand that we never comment on hearsay so they very rarely talk about other people with us. Besides our lives are interesting enough, why do we need to concern ourselves with others?

The contents of our barrel remain calm.

Cheers,
B

Tara Marie said...

Yup....that is high on my list of things 'I dislike'.

Perfect anology.....that mark is always there.

Bye-the-way,,,,did you hear?.....lol!!!!

Hey,,,,have a great weekend,,,,and watch your behavior...you never know, you might be the hot conversation at the watercooler on Monday morning.

BStrong said...

Tara,
Thanks for your weekend wishes. Who knows, maybe I'll start a rumor about myself and see how far it goes:)

Cheers,
B

Lori said...

Amen! Gossip is so hurtful. One night around our campfire this summer we tried this where someone whispered to the person next to them a secret, they passed it on, and it went on and on. By the time it hit the end of the line the story was almost always totally destroyed. We would laugh and laugh at the outcome. But, it just goes to show how rumors spread and get crazier from one person to the next. It was a good lesson for the family.

Suzanne said...

Such a smart young man and woman!
Keep it up! You are an example to us all. By the way, just dropped in to tell you that you surely seem like a wonderful man, husband, and father...May God bless your precious family always and forever! :)

Just Shu said...

then I wont tell you what I heard yesterday