It's quite amazing. Our third child was born with down sydrome. We were not prepared for the news and were devastated because we didn't know what DS was. Needless to say, our daughter just celebrated her first birthday and our family life is amazingly beautiful, but what's up with our friends?
We make it a point to take her (Let's call my daughter Little Peanut(the nurses at the hospital gave her that name)) out and do all the things we do with our typical children. Our friends seem to be shying away from any interaction with us, and that hurts. Before our Little Peanut was born we were very involved with our friends, doing all the things that close friends do. We had our own little group of about 5 couples that did just about everything together. Now we very rarely hear from any of them. This past weekend we were surprised when we were invited out for dinner to one of our "friends" house. There were two other couples there ("friends") with their kids. It was ok but a little uncomfortable because they were very quiet with us around. My wife stepped out of the living room to change Little Peanuts diaper and she over heard her two friends whispering about not knowing what to say to my wife.
My wife pretended that she didn't hear anything. At that point we just wanted to leave.
I just don't get it. We are the same people as we were before Little Peanut was born. We have a child that has down syndrome, big deal. We don't keep her a secret. She is just as much a part of our family as my other two kids.
My question is: How in the world do we deal with our friends? They make us feel awful.