tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post116360340872370398..comments2023-12-05T05:44:05.890-05:00Comments on Down Syndrome Life: The Blame GameBStronghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15795381642029132764noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post-41420104434087942112006-11-27T05:24:00.000-05:002006-11-27T05:24:00.000-05:00Kudos to you. Great article! But, I still have to ...Kudos to you. Great article! But, I still have to wonder if many parents out there are just plain clueless. It requires brains to actually think as deeply as you do. Not sure if many parents out there are on this level.At least not the ones I see. Wish they were and maybe our society would be on less prescription drugs for things such as ADD or ADHD. Hmmm...food for thought. Again. love your blog! - Morgan's MomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post-45523528125810154502006-11-20T08:12:00.000-05:002006-11-20T08:12:00.000-05:00I can only remember getting a smacked bottom once ...I can only remember getting a smacked bottom once too and it was warrented I guess :p My Brother and I ( we were 5 & 6 ) were with another kid on a train track over looking a freeway and the kid dared me to throw a rock, well I was stupid as a kid and I did :p Cops took us home and I got my bottom tanned...I also grew up respecting my elders and find it so wrong to hear how kids talk to grown ups today. <br /><br />SaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post-65566482003233760622006-11-19T23:24:00.000-05:002006-11-19T23:24:00.000-05:00So very true...if the child knows what is expected...So very true...if the child knows what is expected and knows what consequences they may face will help in the department of discipline. <br /><br />DoriDori (Aviva's mommy)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04514776491959175447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post-16388446671937384392006-11-19T11:42:00.000-05:002006-11-19T11:42:00.000-05:00That article doesn't surprise me. The problem is n...That article doesn't surprise me. The problem is not smacking, or the lack of it, but on a lack of conection between parents and children. If kids don't spend time with their parents and don't learn how to deal with the world, then they will take their cues from their peers. So the school bully has more influence than anyone else.Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post-87430655346595095242006-11-19T07:27:00.000-05:002006-11-19T07:27:00.000-05:00opeoimqkSara – I can only remember being smacked o...opeoimqkSara – I can only remember being smacked once as a child and that was when my father heard me speak back to my mother. I learned my lesson that afternoon. It’s quite funny because I can remember it clear as day. It wasn’t a hard smack but it kind of surprised me. It took place at the bottom part of our steps in our hallway. The point was made. I think I turned out ok as well.<br /><br />Kim – It’s illegal, even a little slap on the bottom? I like your points and they certainly have merit. “It might work as a shock tactic the first, and maybe the 2nd time, but it fails to be effective very quickly, so then the smack has to get bigger, harder, more frequent” I think that’s where the problem comes into play. <br />I wish I can say that my son is a perfect angle, but he’s not. The saying “when god created you and broke the mold” doesn’t apply to me; it was used one more time for my son. Thanks for the rant. At least yours are interesting. <br /><br />Does this have any relevance? <br />http://www.thesun.co.uk/article/0,,2-2006510018,00.html<br /><br />Jotcr2 - Good luck. Read Kim’s comment. He brings up some very legitimate points.<br /><br />Jessica – I still think a little “love tap” is ok every now and again.BStronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15795381642029132764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post-18579364341688435622006-11-18T20:52:00.000-05:002006-11-18T20:52:00.000-05:00Great point! There was very few times I was ever s...Great point! There was very few times I was ever spanked by my parents. One time my mom has told me about was when I was around 3 and I ran out into the road. She grabbed me and gave me a swift little smack on the rear, nothing to hurt me, just for me to realize I shouldn't do that.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10338789403683819597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post-34663299148491556212006-11-18T04:30:00.000-05:002006-11-18T04:30:00.000-05:00Will let you know in a few years. Too young at th...Will let you know in a few years. Too young at this parenting game to pass comment.jotcr2https://www.blogger.com/profile/01366448629677893285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post-7953165090448535772006-11-18T04:23:00.000-05:002006-11-18T04:23:00.000-05:00Smacking your child is illegal now in the UK, but ...Smacking your child is illegal now in the UK, but to be honest I have never raised my hand to my children, ever, and never will. My children are well behaved and I do not tolerate bad behaviour from them. Smacking doesn't work as a form of discipline. It might work as a shock tactic the first, and maybe the 2nd time, but it fails to be effective very quickly, so then the smack has to get bigger, harder, more frequent. But even if taken to the stage of frequent beatings, it still doesn't stop a child misbehaving.<br /><br />Holding the child steady, creating eye contact (the chin-up thing by the coach is to be applauded, not reviled, as eye contact is all important) and talking firmly to them until the situation is resolved does work, but it also draws slightly more attention to you and takes slightly longer - and in the middle of a department store we all just want to get out of there as quickly as possible. <br /><br />But if you don't care about the audience, and concentrate on the child then you get the results that work and incidents when you're out become less frequent. <br /><br />All smacking ever does is teach your child that they have to obey you because of the threat of pain and/or violence. So what happens when they are at school and want their own way with the other kids, or if they have younger siblings? - they learn that violence,or the threat of it is the way to get what they want.<br /><br />You can't fight fire with fire and you can't fight bad behaviour with violence without setting yourself up for long term problems.<br /><br />Your child wants your attention, and desperately wants your approval - connecting with them and letting them know when you approve and disapprove of their behaviour, firmly but without hitting, is the most powerful form of discipline.<br /><br />So endeth the rant :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14084675.post-62365279645235789712006-11-17T23:55:00.000-05:002006-11-17T23:55:00.000-05:00Very good point! I myself see alot of young kids t...Very good point! I myself see alot of young kids today have no respect,I know when I was in school , we always had to think if what we did was worth the strap....I grew up ok, well I think I did anyway ;) Smacks on the bottom when needed is not a big deal.<br /><br />SaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com